Picture by: terren in Virginia
And the winner is....?
I live in the south. And a lot of people have their own personal opinions about interracial relationships. Specifically MY interracial relationship.
My boyfriend is white and I'm obviously black and I've written about certain annoyances we've encountered just because we're not the same skin tone. And I understand the historical reasons why some people don't agree with interracial relationships, but those reasons can be just as stupid or hurtful as anything else.
But I've found myself meeting a strange reaction from some black women that I find just as taxing as the free love haters. Of course there are lots of african american women who feel as if any relationship that is not black on black is wrong, but alot of the time I get this reaction:
"You date a white boy? For REAL? How can I get one?"
or
"You need to train ME on how to get one!"
Sighs.
Are white men really such a commodity that some women feel as if it is a sign of 'coming up' if you get a white man to be interested in you? I honestly don't think so. I love my babe to death bt if I'd met a black, hispanic, asian, purple, green, blue man who matched me as perfectly as he did prior to our dating relationship, then I would be with them. My attraction has nothing to do with his skin tone but whats inside him is what atracts me the most.
And it perplexes (and worries) me that soem black women actually believe that by dating outside theri race, they will actually find a man that deserves them and will treat them right. White guys cheat and abuse just like black does, hispanic, asian, etc guys do and it has nothing to do with skin tone but the hurtful and hateful person inside of them.
Another reason this worries me because that whole white man can do know wrong mentality is what alot of black women who see the beauty in interracial relationships are bombarded with from family members and others in the black community. The disgusting accusation that because a black woman is with a white man (or any other race than black) is because she secretly or outwardly hates black men and believes that other races are superior. Maybe some black woman actually feel this way, but that is not the case with me and I'm sure a number of women don't agree with that either.
So my question is why do some women put certain men on a pedestal? This doesn't have to just be about white men, but any race of man. I hate the whole 'my (insert race her) man is better thn yours because (insert stereotype here). So be honest and do NOT be hurtful while commenting because like it or not, Love knows no race.
:)
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